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From Anxiety to Ease: Emily Romero’s Self‑Trust Compass & Nervous‑System Reset
In Episode 02 of The Unshakeable Woman Series, Emily Romero—therapist, retreat facilitator, and author of You Can Trust Yourself—returns to show us what really undermines confidence: a dysregulated nervous system that no longer feels safe to follow its own compass. Overthinking, indecision, burnout—Emily traces them all back to this single root.
She then introduces her Self‑Trust Compass, a four‑point framework:
North: Radical Honesty
East: Keeping Promises
South: Regulation
West: Knowing Yourself
True confidence, Emily explains, isn’t a pep‑talk; it’s a body‑level skill built in small, repeatable moments—like extending your exhale or holding a hug three seconds longer. Spend an hour with us and leave with clear, practical tools to settle anxiety, hear your intuition, and move through life with kinder, steadier action.
Show Notes
[00:00] Why We’re Back
Emily recaps her shift from trauma therapist to self‑trust mentor
Core discovery: almost every therapy goal traces back to lack of self‑trust
Preview of today’s focus: the Compass & nervous‑system basics
[00:05] Defining Self‑Trust
“A state of deep knowing you can rely on your internal compass—whatever comes”
Self‑trust ≠ self‑love or blind confidence; it’s earned through practice
Intuition often leads to uncomfortable but growth‑filled choices
[00:07] North – Radical Honesty
You can’t trust a self that’s hiding from the truth
Parallels to Step 1 in 12‑Step recovery: courageous self‑admission
Honesty grounds you in a real starting point, not wishful thinking
[00:09] East – Keeping (and Sometimes Breaking) Promises
Follow‑through builds trust the same way it does in any relationship
Beware promises set by your “perfectionist part” rather than your wise self
When a commitment was made from fear, breaking it can restore integrity
[00:13] South – Regulation & The Body’s Alarm System
Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn explained through animal biology
Trauma = incomplete survival energy stored in tissues
Regulation is the antidote to chronic anxiety and the gateway to clear intuition
[00:26] Live Somatic Demo
Emily guides Sarah‑Frances through orienting: looking around the room, noticing birds, gentle chair‑rocking
Result: chest tension drops and urges to “grab chocolate or scroll” fade
Take‑away: slow, sensory attention resets the vagus nerve in real time
[00:50] Five Everyday Regulation Anchors
Fuel: supportive food, water, supplements
Movement & Rest: the right dose for your season and cycle
Sunlight: natural light resets circadian and infradian rhythms
Connection: co‑regulate through touch, laughter, conversation
Sleep: quality and timing matter as much as hours logged
[00:56] Giveaway & What’s Next
Listeners invited to enter a book giveaway (details below!)
Teaser for Part 3 LIVE on Friday, April 25 @ 2‑3 pm EST—final deep dive into implementation
Key Quotes
“Self‑trust is confidence that isn’t dependent on the external world treating you a certain way.” – Emily Romero
“Our bodies don’t care how we survive—only that we do. Healing means finishing the story our nervous system never got to finish.” – Emily Romero
“Sometimes you must break a perfectionist promise so you can set one that’s actually in integrity.” – Emily Romero
“Slower is faster: the quickest way to heal trauma is slowly.” – Emily Romero
Resources Mentioned
Book: You Can Trust Yourself by Emily Romero (includes QR‑code audio practices)
Framework: The Self‑Trust Compass (North, East, South, West)
Therapeutic Approaches: Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic Experiencing
Regulation Tools: Orienting, extended exhale breathing, gentle rocking
Where to Find Emily Romero
Website & retreats: Curiosity Rising
You Can Trust Yourself podcast (Apple & Spotify)
Call to Action — Win Your Own Copy of You Can Trust Yourself
Feeling the spark to deepen your self‑trust practice? Enter our free book giveaway and let Emily’s full framework live on your nightstand.
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Thank You
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P.S. & What’s Next
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